A good friend of mine called me the other day for some guidance on how to talk to her grade 2 son about people who are transgender. Apparently at recess he and a few of his friends were talking about how much it hurts to get kicked in the testicles (she did confirm they were using the scientific names for this body part, at least!) and one of the boys said, “Not for Caitlyn Jenner, she doesn’t have balls anymore.”
Q: My 8-year-old daughter tells me she keeps hearing about New Year’s resolutions on TV commercials lately. She asked what they meant, and now she wants to make some. Is it healthy for her to do that at her age or will it be too much pressure on her? And is it too late seeing as it’s already the end of January?
I recently came across a Canadian study that explored the characteristics of victims of sexual coercion. Sexual coercion is a broad category often used by contemporary researchers to refer to the spectrum of people (men, women and transgender folks) whose experiences range from being pressured in some way either implicitly or explicitly to engage in sexual contact to people that have experienced overt violence and sexual assault.
The majority of parents understand that the internet is a valuable, yet dangerous place for teenagers. But because cyberspace wasn't around when we were growing up (wow, our parents had it easy!) it's often difficult for parents to know how to navigate what their teens are doing online, how to monitor it, how much to monitor it, and how to help their teens generally to make smart decisions on the internet. The good news is that there are several basic things parents can do to keep their teens safe online.
Much like we used pig latin when we were growing up, teens these days have a very specific text language they use in an effort to keep parents guessing. This slang involves numbers or symbols replacing certain letters in words, abbreviations and, most commonly, acronyms.
The pervasive availability of online pornography might just be the scariest of all the relevant sexual health topics we need to be discussing with youth. When discussing porn with our youth comes up in my sessions with parents they often look both terrified and relieved to finally be talking about it.